9 Steps to Remarkable Success in Love- Part 2
[Continuing with Remarkable Success in Love, a LoveRules reinterpretation of Jeff Haden's 9 Beliefs of Remarkably Successfully People from Inc.com.]
- Paid Dues - Think you've done enough already? You can't stop being selfless, stop communicating, stop courting, stop listening, stop doing anything you did to find your loved one. You can't stop going out to meet people, you can't stop trying to create connections. You have to be relentless. It's a daily operation. The minute you stop is when your good love results unravel.
- Experience - Even past experience is limited. Get out and create new experiences. Learn to adjust to new scenarios. Date didn't go according to plan? Think your one size fits all approach to treating people will get you love. Guess again. Open yourself to the "now" moment.
- Failure - Start counting your failures not as stumbling blocks, but stepping-stones. The one with the most failures and hasn't given up, usually wins what they want. Knocked down? Embarrassed? Ashamed? Broken heart? Get the f*ck up and Love again as if you've never been hurt, as if you are a well-spring of Love. Learn to heal fast and avoid the old pitfalls.
- Volunteering - Learn to say "yes." What a pain in the ass this is, right? Do you really want to do one more thing when you don't feel like it? Well, go back to step #1 when you told yourself you were "for real" this time. Hey! Want to go to this party after work tonight where there should be some cool girls/guys to talk to? Ohhh, I just finished a tough week at work... (whine, whine whimper). Unless you have a pressing item on your priority list, GO!!! Especially if you've been putting in the personal work. This is where the cumulative energy builds up and delivers you a win! Just when you needed it. Say, "yes" and expect some wins!
- As long as/Just Because - Don't get overly picky and don't skimp on the grace and generosity! I'm not saying lower your standards or over compromise yourself. Afterall, your priorities are key. But don't eliminate a potential partner from your list just because of 1 or 2 minor flaws. You have flaws too. And don't go along with someone else's game just because you wanted to be nice. You can find a gracious and admirable way to say "no" if the match up isn't right. The point here is that as long as the person is meeting most of your "attractive" qualities, give it a chance, date a little bit. Keep circulating. What else do you have going on? Imagine getting to choose from a few prospects, rather than just waiting, hoping on one. And who knows? Even if that person doesn't work out for you, you might be able to match him/her with a friend.
That's all for Part 2. Thanks for reading. Stay tuned for the Part 3, coming a little later. See if you're for real.